Influence of family education should respond to the timesKey point: every family must give serious thought to put children into what kind of person? More specifically, success in secular utility between a target and a healthy and happy life, what you choose? In fact, the real success was not lost on the starting line, but to lay a good foundation for children, bring up his personality and the fundamental values, the child's success is assured.
from China Youth College for Political Sciences Professor Lu Shizhen on a fourth new Oriental Education Summit Keynote
recently, talk a lot about the family education patterns in society. Many people feel that today's kids harder educational, family problems more and more, parents in wusuocuoshouzu more and more, and for what?
we talk about family, you must take time. Today's family education facing era of multiple effects. First is the materialization of the effects of the market economy, and now parents say "don't let your children at the starting line", but I would like to ask them, are you going to let your children where to run? Where the end? This quick success criteria, under the influence of physico-chemical results on the success or failure of the market economy, which affects the growth of a generation. Followed by a wide range of ideological influence. Social value is now a wide range of family education to cultivate children's value judgment of right and wrong, so that they can in the material, diversified and complex environment learn to rationally choose values independently. Besides, today's society is more and more democratic, egalitarian, family education should respect the child's dominant position.
family education must respond to these influences in the age of using traditional set, it's hard to education the children of today. Traditional family education methods used to scold, accustomed to inculcate in children, in the eyes of today's children, it is the most desirable, and most invalid. The author believes that for today's family, there are four problems must be carefully thought.
one is the goal, every family must give serious thought to put children into what kind of person? More specifically, success in secular utility between a target and a healthy and happy life, what you choose? In fact, the real success was not lost on the starting line, but to lay a good foundation for children, bring up his personality and the fundamental values, the child's success is assured. If just seeking the surface performance, rather than potential development, will achieve the opposite result.
Second, relations, how to look at the child, as children? Previously thought of home education is eggplant, carrots, potatoes or apples, all in accordance with that molds to shape, this kind of thinking does not work now. Family education to each child as a unique, dynamic and potential. Every child is the central subject of development, and have their own potential, the key is how to play.
three is the attitude towards children, the most important is the distinction between acceptance and appreciation of differences. On the child's behaviour you can not appreciate, but to understand and accept him. If you do not understand is not accepted, loses the basis for dialogue with children. In this regard, and many parents, including family education theories emphasize communication, but it only solves the problem of parenting style, premise, basis of communication continue to be understood and accepted.
four methods of family education, and family education methods must reform. In primary and secondary schools, intelligence is not essential to, influence achievement motivation and habits. Parents should be aware that educate, lecture of motivation may not be able to stimulate the child, for children, driven by desire for knowledge, and desire to succeed, parents should be good by encouraging and mobilizing children's desire for knowledge, and desire to succeed. In terms of habit, cultivating a child's attention, which is focused on habits, habits of thinking, there's serious attitude is very important. In addition, for the surface of the achievements of their children, and to develop children's intellectual power, and mental ability are more important.
Finally, I would like to appeal, do research, parent education. Today, about family education, some new formulations, new ideas out, many parents are highly valued, but often is not necessarily effective. Family education is complex, social environment, family circumstances are different, same method may produce very different two people, parents should do some research.